“Why don’t you want kids?”

“Why don’t you want kids?”
I’m asked this question a lot and you'll hopefully find all the explanation you need here.

It takes guts to tell people that I don’t want kids because it seems to be a never ending battle. It’s starting to take a toll on my sanity.

The biggest battle I face, almost daily, is with my mother. She’s DYING to be a grandmother. Even though my brother will have children, she tells me it’s not the same. She says that there is a closeness a daughter, a baby and her mother can share. I will mention a guy, even if it’s just a friend, and she’ll ask almost instantly, if he wants children. Either way, what does it matter? I, ME, YOUR DAUGHTER, does not.

People are often offended when I say I don't want children. Why? I'm not offended when they tell me they want or have children. (Though, often, I’m offended BY your children. Seriously, you need to beat them or something – Ha.) Having kids isn't for everyone just like not having kids isn't for everyone.

Kudos to every parent out there. I could never do it. I’m sure they aren’t full of shit when people say that raising a kid is the hardest thing you’ll ever to do. I admire every last one of you. I encourage you to have your children, populate, raise our next world leader or astronaut or lawyer.

Don’t get me wrong, I like kids but I’m generally pretty awkward around them. There are a select few little people out there that I think are pretty rad and I can stand to be around for longer than 5 seconds.

I knew in my early teens that I didn’t want kids. I don't want to go through pregnancy. I don’t want to have all the changes to my body. I’ve never desired to be a mother. It’s just not my thing. I understand that several people have the desire, that urge, that "baby itch" - I've never had that feeling. I'm 27 and I doubt I ever will. I love my freedom, I love last minute vacations, I enjoy my sleep and sanity.

I just feel how I feel... I have to think that defending this topic is along the lines of gay people having to explain and defend their feelings. Wow.

“You’re selfish.”
You bet. Wouldn’t it be even more selfish for me to bring a child into this world that I don’t want? There are a lot of kids out there that fall into that category. I think it’s crazy to cave under pressure and do stuff just to please the majority or just to make someone else happy, like my mother or my significant other.

“Would you adopt?”
Same answers apply: No. I don’t want to deal with children at the baby stage or the toddler stage or even the teenage stage.

"You'll be alone forever."
This one is total bullshit. I know I don't stand alone, I am positive there are others that want the same things I do.

If you do want to date me and you don’t already know what I mean when I state that I don’t want children, I know that we’re not on the same page. I would never expect someone to choose to not want to have kids just to be with me. That would be horrible and selfish. Vise versa as well.

It’s definitely a lot harder than I originally thought it would be to find someone that doesn’t want children. It’s often a deal breaker, on both sides, when the KIDS topic comes up. It is just as important to me not to make babies as it is for some guys to have kids.

D.I.N.K. - Double Income No Kids - This life style is extremely appealing to me.

I guess that's it. I'm exhausted to the max on this subject. I just hope that some people can now understand my side of my kid-free argument... It's quiet over here. Do you hear that? Exactly.


Links to others who share my point of view:
I couldn’t have wrote THIS any better myself.
I found THIS read very interesting.